Since launching All Things Bright & Good a couple of weeks ago, I’ve had a variety of comments on the way my surname is spelt on the About Judy page and above each post. [See comments below for an update on the surname situation!]
Some people think it’s a typo, others that it’s my pen name, and I think it’s time I explained why it’s there with an ‘a’ on the end rather than a ‘y’!
The thing is that I’ve been divorced for years and haven’t seen my ex-husband or any of his family for ages. It’s been bugging me that I’ve ended up with a name that has nothing to do with me.
What lots of women do in this situation is to go back to their maiden name, but I associate that with being a schoolgirl, and it would feel really weird. Changing my name when I got married was unexpectedly peculiar and took ages to get used to, and I swore I would never do it again!
But a clever friend pointed out I could change the ‘y’ on the end of my name to an ‘a’ and it sounds the same but looks different. This way it’s just a cosmetic change, a naming nip and tuck! And it’s quite neat because my maiden name began with an ‘a’ so in a sense it’s bringing me full circle!
The new blog seemed like a great opportunity to try out the new spelling and see how I feel about it before making any drastic decision. One friend says the new version makes her think of brightly painted beach huts (Hem-On-Sea?)and another that ‘lea’ suggests a lovely green valley!
Early days yet, but I’m liking it so far. I have to admit the thought of going through the legal process of changing one letter of my name fills me with dread 🙁 Having moved more times than we’d have liked in the last few years I know just how many organisations would have to be informed, and it’s a job I could well do without.
But I might decide it’s worth it. Have you been in this situation? What did you decide to do? Was it worth all the legal shenanigans? And would you change your name now if you got married?